We Need To Talk About Me

Here’s a list of related and recommended resources to accompany my talk for Subvisual.

🏷 Interests & Current Loves

snowboarding // kiteboarding // surfing // early morning walks // long lunches // aperitivos // hotel lobbies // roadtrips // G // The Knitting Club // slow coffee // Duoro Reserva 2016 // Ancestral Supplements // MasterClass // Ready Player One // James Blake // Cj Hendry

🐣 Standards I Hold Myself To


  • Apologize properly and as soon as possible (Related reading: Apologies)
  • Elaborate compliments and give credit where credit is due
  • Be on time
  • Don’t use the catchphrase I’m busy (Recommended reading: The Busy Trap by Tim Kreider)
  • Don’t cancel meetings last-minute (works well when only setting meetings max. a week out)
  • If they were agreed first, honor dates with friends and family above impromptu work requests
  • No gossiping, bad-mouthing
  • Refrain from asking for silly favors (Recommended forwarding: Let Me Google That For You)

Work in progress

  • “If you have a choice between being right and being kind, choose kind.” –Dr. Wayne W. Dyer

  • Make the charitable assumption

    • “Making the charitable assumption means that when someone behaves poorly, you should avoid judging them and instead give them the benefit of the doubt.” –The Culture Code
    • Recommended listening/reading: This is Water by David Foster Wallace
  • No complaints

  • Sleep on it

🐥 Some Other Odd Facts

  • I spent five years experimenting with 12 different lifestyles while writing about them and traveling the world (related reading: The Spin-Off Project)
  • I nowadays post my work only on platforms I own
  • I try not to spend any time on social media, which, if any, amounts to an hour a week
  • I don’t watch TV except for a movie every few months or so
  • I don’t read the news except for an occasional Twitter binge
  • I prevented a surgery by going hardcore keto and doing three 5-day water-only fasts (related reading: Everything I Know About Fasting and Going Keto)
  • I’m nowadays all in with an animal-based diet with some raw honey and occasional seasonal fruits (Recommended reading: The Carnivore Code)

🏝 Favorite Cities

Havana, Tokyo, and Tel Aviv

Related reading: Found in Nothing (And My Latest Tokyo favorites)

🤟🏽 Relationship Tactics

  • Friday Night Talkies
  • Keep a shared gratefulness journal
  • Try not to reenact old-age women/men and parent dynamics
  • “Refrain from trying to change or mother your partner.” – Gabrielle Reece

💆🏾‍♀️ Self-Care Rituals

  • Morning pages (journaling) + artist dates (related reading: Example of artist dates + The Artist’s Way)
  • Gratefulness practice
  • Go for a walk
  • 5-minute yoga stretch
  • Call a friend
  • Read
  • Meditate
  • Sun baths
  • Go through a folder that I keep with compliments I received

Related reading: Morning Rituals + Staying Sane

🌈 Books That Influenced Some of My Life Choices

🥸 What I’m Currently Learning

  • Learning about the anatomy of my body, the impact of hormones and menstrual cycles on my mood, and the influence of gender roles on my decisions. (Related reading: We Need To Talk + Recommended reading: You Should’ve AskedIf you only read one of the resources I mentioned, make it this comic.)
  • What it means to be a leader and a successful group. Reading books like Leaders Eat Last and The Culture Code
  • React and advanced CSS

😴 My Growth Goal For 2021

Sleep on it

Do you have the patience to wait
till your mind settles and the water is clear?
Can you remain unmoving
till the right action arises by itself?
–Tao Te Ching

🔖 Quote I Love

You’re never given a dream without also being given the power to make it true. You may have to work for it, however. –Richard Bach

Related reading: Wish Making